I read in social media of someone looking for recommendations for an “aggressive” family law attorney for a friend. Then I read some well-intentioned responses, referring to what they called “bulldog” attorneys.
After 12 years of doing exclusively family law, I learned that, when it comes to divorce, your attorney should be your counselor.
You need someone who can see objectively what you, because of the strong emotions you are experiencing, cannot appreciate at the present time. Divorce usually involves children, and “destroying” their mother or their father, or making sure he/she gets “nothing”, is never in the children’s best interests. Of course litigation is often time necessary, but you should not litigate for the sake of it, or to make the other party miserable, or to make them spend all their money, which is what a “bulldog” attorney will probably indulge you with.
There are so many options when it comes to handling your divorce, and “fair” is what you should strive for. Keep in mind that, after the divorce is over, co-parenting will continue. There will be more birthdays, graduations, weddings and grandchildren. I strongly suggest that you interview several attorneys before taking the important decision of retaining one.
